Every time I think I have a plan, life throws me a big wave to ride out. As intuitive and instinctive as I think I am, I somehow sometimes miss the approaching hidden or major waves of life. If I am honest, I really get hit by these waves of life, when I put all my trust in others ability to be ethical, honest and moral by showing the innate quality of simply being human by looking beyond themselves and their needs…
This last wave lead me to face many personal turns and relationship spins. What I have learned from all of them is that people or life can only bring in the madness, if I let it in. For example, today I had a phone call from a person that always seems to pour drama into my life and often finds a way to leave me intentionally or unintentionally drained. Drained meaning, a headache, feeling emotionally spent in seconds and wanting to buy the first pieces of junk food I can get my hands in an effort to find some kind of quick fix comfort.
However, I decided that when I am faced with such waves and negative energy to just put my hand up, wave the white piece flag and walk the far away from the situation or person, because nothing is worth allowing myself to be drained. So, in this phone conversation when the person started. I stopped them and told them the problem for me and that I was not going to let them take me to a negative head or energy space. I got off the phone!
Of course, I failed from the moment that I began to let them engage me in their negative behaviors, conniving guilt trips, blame everyone but themselves for their problems and lies upon lies. Of course, we are all guilty of this, especially those who always feel we need to come to the rescue of others. More specifically, that one person that you have been saving their whole life and inturn enabling to behave in this dysfunctional way in your life without any consequence.
It is funny, because it is so difficult for the drained to see how much they are being milked by the drainer, but as soon as we tell one person -word for word- the details of the event that has now claimed all of our energy, ability to focus to complete our planned tasks and has now riddled us with guilt or uncertainty. What if this time they are telling the truth?What if this time they are really in trouble? Was I just too harsh? Were their accusations about my behavior, words or tone towards them true? No! No! No! Stop it!
In life you have two kinds of people, those that are happy or seeking happiness with intention and those how are unhappy and want to share it with the world as they fail to address the real problems in their lives, fear any change in life, want you to be as sad as them, think you don’t deserve your happiness or are just jealous of your happiness! My recommendation is walk away now, tell them the door is open when they are willing to seek happiness and refocus yourself back on those that add happiness to your life (that includes yourself as your happiness start first with you)!
Weekend blogging is the best! Too bad its Monday 😉