My Wallpaper Series Number Two: Enjoy!

 

My wallpaper series number two. Download it to your phone or desktop and enjoy! 

HA Wallpaper Series Two

Weekend blogging is the best!

Happy Sunday,

Harlem

My Wallpaper Series Number One: Enjoy!

 

Here is the first of my wallpaper series. Download it to your phone or desktop and enjoy! 

HA Wallpaper Series One

Weekend blogging is the best!

Happy Sunday,

Harlem

Country 100

I finally achieved my goal of visiting 100 countries. It seems yesterday when I was 25 deciding that I was fed-up with the lies I had learned in school and decided to take control of my “re-education,” with a little bit of courage I set off on my first trip to Europe alone at 27 after deciding much prep work: going to a club alone, a bar, a movie theater, a play and then one day to London and Rome.. now 7 years later I have done it.. visited my 100 country, traveled 6 continents, visited some places 2 or 3 times, lived in Europe and still had time to get a few degrees (5 to be exact)… I feel really proud! Thanks to all my friends and family that have messaged me along all my journies, opened their homes to me, liked all my vacation posts, shared their friends so I could have a friendly face to meet me at each country and given me more travel tips than lonely planet could dream about! 

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The life of a traveler is amazing. I met Ana from the Ukraine 4 days ago in Andorra where we said goodbye as we would probably never meet again. Today, As arrive back home in my tiny city of Grenoble, France. Look who is the first person I see.. Ana from the Ukraine in my tiny city when we meet 4 days ago randomly in Andorra… amazing.. making connections Jamaica-America-Ukraine connections Andorra-Monaco-France 😉 100 countries and still the blessings of traveling surprises me!

Lol.. .. the struggles of a traveler… traveling not my best photo lol!

Criticism

Society has told us that Criticism is negative and feedback is positive, but that’s not true. From criticism it is possible to extract some unknown truths, strengthens and weaknesses. It is also possible to discover who are your friends and your enemies (those jealous of you or passing their own personal fears on to you as a way to stop you from maxing your potential). How can we to use this Criticism to our benefit?

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1.Look at who its coming from: Is this person confident and happy in their own lives, then why would they waste their time to tell you something that they thing adds value to your life. You should take the time to first thank this person, as they get nothing from taking the time to share with you ideas to help you improve your life, relationships or experiences. They have in fact, took a big risk by sharing with you in the first place, as most people only want to hear the good stuff about themselves and become angry about the less positive parts of their personality or actions. However, if this person is bitter, filled with regret and has never tried anything that required even the smallest amount of risk -living in fear of the unknown-. You can be sure that their words come from a place of jealousy, poor intention and aim to project their own fears on you to you, so do yourself a favor and ignore it! Politely of course.

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2. Perceptions are cash in the bank: Whenever someone who knows nothing about you shares with you (normally in passing conversation and indirectly) what their perception of your energy, life, performance and skills. You can be sure this is invaluable information, as this is probably how everyone else sees you, but doesn’t have the courage or care to tell you. For sure, some of it will be awesome, but some of it will also be in areas you need to improve or change to improve your environments perception of you.

3. “Your development is your and no one elses:” Meaning, you have to decide what parts of your personality are you, that you love and that you do not want to change under any situation. Once you decided, you have to be willing to take accountability for those parts of your personality and character, ready to defend and stay true to them when people ask you to change them. For all the other stuff, make a plan and begin to change your life today! No more excuses or waiting for the right moment. There is no right moment, so just make a plan and do it. Remember, “Your development is your responsibility and no one elses.”

Relationships

We are all humans and can not predict our reaction to roads never traveled, emotions never experience and situations never faced. No matter how many relationships we have been in or how long our relationships have lasted, there is always something new to learn and uniques to our partner that you have not yet discovered. Though, we all hope we can reach a point where we know our partners (as well as we hope we know ourselves). This is usually unattainable and must be considered, as life will always through us a new dynamic or challenge that must be faced with consideration, communication and compromise between us and our partner(s).

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Partner Communication should be inclusive of not only the fun stuff, but all the things that we do not want to hear or are hesitant to address. This comes with the willingness and openness to understand where the other person is coming from and what they are really trying to communicate to you though their words. Words that we can now clearly connect to an action or reaction from the past that you believed was random or not critical.

Finally, comes the art of compromise. This is the biggest part. We need to be open and honest with ourselves, as the things we say we are willing to compromise on must be really that. It is not fair to ourselves or our partner(s) to compromise with penalty, regret or hopes of them changing their mind later on. Once that compromise is made, it should be a fresh start to our relationship(s), as anything less with lead us back to the point of contention that led to our relationship waves in the first place.